So you found out that the person you met online or is dating recently has genital herpes, what did you do? Or what should you do to deal with the situation? Should you stop seeing the person? Do you think that is your only option here? Absolutely not!
The problem with dating someone with Herpes is not the disease itself, but today’s society that has overblown stigma over the disease. The truth is, most adult sex has come in contact with the herpes virus that right now, it is actually pretty common of a disease. What is debilitating of Herpes is the shame and isolation that comes with it which people with Herpes have to deal with.
Because of this, most people with Herpes becomes afraid to connect with people and form a relationship. They are afraid of the discrimination and sometimes look of disgust that people throw at them when they are simply trying to find someone who can understand and accept them. In truth, there is really no need for people to worry or be afraid of dating someone with Herpes. More importantly, there is no reason for someone with Herpes to stop looking for fun and love just because they are infected with Herpes virus.
First of all, you have to understand that almost 20% of U.S. adult population is affected with Herpes. It is not like a rare disease that cannot be cured. Even if you have it, you can still live life normally, fall in love, have sex and do thing like normal couples would. But in terms of dating, there are some pointers that you have to know.
Following that, when the subject of genital herpes comes into, don’t brush off the subject or think it is disgusting or discriminate people because of it. If you are looking for a partner or a friend, surely it is their personality that you first look at, right? Of course, this is not pressuring you since you also have your own views on things. But it is best to be open-minded over the subject and learn more about it.
Learning facts about Herpes can help you decide what to do rationally. Learning about it will help you come up with the most logical decision that will not leave you any regrets in the end. Should you decide to still pursue your relationship, then here are some useful tips that you have to do. First, get yourself tested to find out whether you have already contacted it and is positive.
If you are and your partner is positive as well, then you can have a worry-free sexual life since you can pass Herpes with someone who’s already has it. On the other hand, if you are not positive it means that you will have to take extra precaution when you get sexual and intimate to avoid transmission. Most important of all, be there for your partner and let the feel your support as it had taken them incredible courage to admit to you that they have Herpes. It just goes that they trust more than enough.